Failure is part of life. Draw from your own experiences then come up with a plan on how not to fail.
There is too much negativity in this country. Our young people especially are down and depressed. From violent TV programs to the television media always talking about who murdered who, who was killed, the national debt, violence again in some other country and on and on. What we need is more positive things in our lives. If by radio, TV or simply distressing and young people are especially suffering from this. In this article I will attempt to share with you how I dealt with negativity.
Young people today are bombarded with negativity from the media, Internet, government and even family. They are always being told they can't, and in so many words you will not advance in life because you don't have what it takes. They are told they need to depend on government to take care of them or help them advance in life. We see an increasing number of both young and old living with parents in this country.
The causes range from accumulation of debt either from school loans or job loss. Advancing in a career or in life is dependent upon the simply economics of a job. Let’s get down to brass tacks. Jobs make living possible. Without one you have no chance of having your own life, your own place and an opportunity to really live.
Fact: living comes from discretionary income not the money you earned that pays bills. It comes from the money left over. Examples of living are: eating in a nice restaurant, movies, weekend getaway and so on depending on your likes.
So how do you advance in your life and career while being surrounded by so much negativity? It helps to hang out with those who are positive and successful. It could be with family members, your friends or church leaders.
Life will always kick you in the six when you least expect it. You can count on it. It's just a matter of when. It's not about IF you get up but how fast you get up. I know from my own experiences the challenges of advancing my way through life. Each time life knocked me down I got stronger and smarter. Here are some examples of how life threw a curve ball at me or knocked me down, and how I got right up and overcame that struggle.
In the early 1990's I lost my job and didn't have a car and had no money to buy food for my kids. So I rode a bus to a government office to apply for food stamps. This was long before they created a food card known today as an EBT card. These were printed out stamps and in those days it was looked down upon. Once off the bus I shopped then carried in two paper grocery bags, one in each arm for several miles home. Then prepared meals and worried about getting through the next day.
Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.
~ Brian Tracy
Surviving is not living. Living comes from a really good paying job. Young people today have opportunities that my generation never had. I paid my way through college out of my pocket. There were no freebees back then. When I served on Active Duty there was no such thing as a sign on bonus or free college money.
Getting help when you need it
Finally I hit rock bottom and in 1999 I found myself and my youngest son homeless, and I don't mean without an address. We were living in my car and I had to figure a way out "rapidly". I was very fortunate that at the time I had a good paying job. It was my only saving grace. Eventually we got a place to live and I got an even better paying job then we lived well.
Once again I got up and looked life in the eye as I have done so many times and said: "is this the best
You’ve got". I decided then that "I refuse to accept defeat".
Are you tired of hearing you can't? You won't make it? You need the government to take care of you because you don't have what it takes to make it? I say you can. I say anyone can if they think they can and are willing to act. The will to act is what will make or break you.
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.
No matter what happens. Just get up and think your way through the problem by taking small steps at a time. Take time occasionally to look back and see how far you've come. This is especially important when you’re a student. It will help you continue on when your brain is fried from academics and you feel like it will never end. Look how far I've come. If I can go this far I can finish. I can, I can, and I can.
Life wants your unconditional surrender. Are you willing to just give up? Are you willing to allow life, other people, the government or even friends and family keep you down? It is not their life it's yours. It's not their decision to make. It's yours. Have a take charge attitude but be positive.
Never quit...Never give in...Never surrender and most important - Refuse To Except Defeat or as my martial arts instructor always said “keep your eyes on the prize”.
Best wishes to the next generation as we pass the torch. Hold it proudly and believe in yourself.